why does allah keep hurting me

why does allah keep hurting me

but only in this matter Allah gave me justice. i really wanted to commit suicide. Ahmad narrated in al-Musnad (8043), from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) in a marfoo hadith: There are three whose supplication will not be rejected: a just ruler; a fasting person until he breaks his fast; and the supplication of one who has been wronged, which is carried on the clouds, and the gates of the heavens are opened for it, and the Lord, may He be glorified and exalted, says: By My might, I shall surely support you, even if it is after a while. Actually brother you are doing great! Get medication if needed. i lived with some relatives that didnt like me very much. I certainly hope you are doing better now. now, imagine yourself in my position that i have continuous pain in my private parts as if someone is banging with a hammer, continuous pain in the brain that i feel like there is some object hovering inside. Allah is testing our loyalty to Him, and our trust in Him. As much as I hate to say this I would become frustrated and angry that Allah wasn't giving me justice, he was punishing me despite me being a good Muslim eg avoiding haraam and sinful behaviour etc. Adam and Hawwa (pbut) are often thought to have been punished in such a way, for eating from the forbidden tree. But you still have yourself and you will always have Allah Subhana Wataalah as long as you keep asking Him for help. he just wont listen to my supplications. Do not deprive yourself of all of that by being careless with regard to praying Fajr at the beginning of its time with the congregation in the mosque, lest your enemy gain power over you when you are the one who is bringing that upon yourself if you do that (neglect Fajr). That is understandable. I also have been fighting my addiction for the last 3 years and still Allah keeps hurting me. my own parents left me. Statements like these only escalate the process of drowning for individuals who suffer from depression, anxiety or hopelessness. What I mean in great is that you didn't kill yourself which is actually great, it means you have a great and strong soul. But, if you want to ask Allah why--perhaps it means you are still rich because you question the One that you still believe in. I wanted to be noticed just for a moment. now my brain and mind both is gone. It's said that the only things Allah SWA won't forgive are shirk (worshipping someone/something other than Allah SWA - including money and ourselves) and hurting someone (Allah SWA says He won't forgive you unless the person you hurt does, this includes back biting and . Fight your sickness. one day i was insulted in front of thousands of students by the school principal becos my school uniform was below standard. I fail at almost everything I do. So keep on going because you are already making progress in life and miracles in life. Sadness is a part of what makes us human. She cried to the One who could help her, the One in Whose house she was making prayers. And thats how We rescue believers(21:88). We would like to show you a description here but the site won't allow us. Even Allahs (SWT) prophets did not have control over their outcomes. All suffering is a test of your patince and all suffering you recive and still have eman will be rewarded with happiness and good times in this life or the next. Sometimes, the human mind is unable to understand Allahs (SWT) ultimate wisdom behind every single thing that happens to us. I wasn't myself, I remember feeling so desperate to feel normal, I actually started becoming scared that I couldn't feel a connection with Allah, it made me really uneasy. Really there is no reason for you to be in constant grief. ' (2:30). It really does help in looking at the bright side of things! Having a content life is what every individual desires, and that requires a lot of work, work that has to be consistent. Allah swt knows exactly how strong our eman is, and he tests us accordingly, whether we know it or not. Salaam, i can understand where your coming from. Trust me. too easy for you people to pass judgments on others because you havent been molested and sexually violated at the age of 16 and survived. You not only helping yourself but also others as well. so, is there any hadith of prophet that applies to the lowest kind of human being like me? thanks for your kind-hearted words. I knew He would guide meHe is Al Hadiy and Ar Rashid. A believer in His Might was being tested in front of my eyes, testimony to the ayat that warns us we will be tested the closer we get to Him, and know this is a testimony to His promise if He loves us, He will test us. yes i need the mental toughness and strength to bounce back. And we are told that when Allah (swt) loves someone and wants good for them, He tests them [Sahih Bukhari]. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Guess Who? So, in fact you should consider yourself lucky - inshaAllah through the tests and trials your facing your sins are being forgiven and I pray your rewarded for your patience in the hereafter, Ameen. I really needed it right now. The servant will continue to be tried until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin. [Tirmidhi]. My own is FAR WORST than yours so i can't figure out your need for complaining! It means slave/servant of Allah. It is of the utmost importance that people know the difference between sadness and depression; sadness is a typical human emotion and depression is a much more damaging and longer lasting condition of hopelessness, despair, and dejection. And Allah has so much trust on you for Him to decide to give you these hardships. Why does Allah keep punishing me? so, when someone with my case comes online and makes a comment, you people call me ungrateful to Allah and make a reply from your perspective. he would do that to me almost everyday. Careers Workplace and Religion Columnists, Recreation Outdoors and Religion Columnists, Religious Music and Entertainment Columnists, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I didnt let that go because deep down I knew the tough days would pass with the help of Allah (SWT). I will try to write an article about this subject Insha'Allah. May Allah swt ease your pain and the pain of your family and your loved ones. There is nobody without problem bro, that's what makes us human. Is it haram to be still in love with my ex husband. I too am suffering at many degrees but by hearing you and others I felt better. he never cared about me. i know that Allah is out there. btw u just told me i shouldnt focus on what i dont have. all my dreams have been shattered into pieces. for the last 8 years, my life is hell. i had achieved so much at such a young age that i commanded huge respect from everyone. wael, i am extremely sorry if i have rubbed you up the wrong way with my behavior brother. i still remember how bright and talented i was. What is the price of Faith in Allah? The great fruits of the love of Allah for His slave are as follows: 1. If Allah desires good for someone he faces hardship, Prophet Muhammad said: When Allah (SWT) desires good for someone, He tries him with hardships. Sahih al-Bukhari. If we want to be happy, then we must change what is within ourselves by our actions every single day, no let-ups. Nobody is a lowlife. Today, take your shower and make some tea and some dinner. Do you think they will not be punished on the last day? It is an ongoing process, which needs to be monitored and nurtured all the time. i have seen some people who give worst kind of torture and damage to others. Everything in life is a test. SO keep on going because Actually brother you are making a miracle by being a survivor. lost everything that i had. I chose not to be around family, I chose to refuse calls from friends and cousins, who wanted to hang out, I chose not to focus on my work. you probably are happily married with a bunch of kids that are class toppers. This seems like its a clear-cut example of a wrong action leading to misery as a punishment. i am counting on Allah's promise in the Quran that he will administer justice to everyone even to the size of a jarrah. And for those who hurt you they will get punishment of COURSE. Shaiton keeps on whispering for you to do bad things. May Allah Swt help me with this money. We tend to get lost in circumstantial sources of grief and pain and forget to notice our source of blessings. The thing I hated, that pain that sorrow and darkness, led me to be closer to him; those dark days brought me the greatest gift. I started spending time with family. It helped me to connect and strive to get closer to Allah (SWT). That is simply not how Allah created us. salam brother. Alllah is saving His severest punishment for them and Allah is saving His greatest more miraculous most outstanding gifts and rewards for you in Akhirah. i am a human being of the lowest status. I think that when we become weak in our faith, we automatically give easy access to the shaytaan. This is probably one of my most fun posts. But what about when it seems like something bad is happening as a direct result of ones wrong actions? when Allah select anybody, why he torture him constantly. We need to learn to have faith and place our trust completely in Him, but we need to understand that even by doing that we may not get what we want, but we need to still remain patient and grateful, and put our own efforts into it and then leave it in Allah's hands and inshaAllah we will be rewarded for it. Faith is that which remains with you when all else has failed you again and again--in other words, it can't be bought even when you have been left deserted. Feeling rejected is probably one of the most painful experiences in life and studies indicate that the neural pathway of rejection in the brain is the same as physical pain. Listen to the story of how it all started. can you believe that? The strength of a believer is not that he remains strong by dwelling in denial or drowning in numbness, it is that he never loses hope despite all the pain and grief. Sadness is a part of what makes us human. he only give to people like justin bieber, eminem, lionel messi, donald trump who insult His name and who insult islam and dont pray to him. Start small, and be consistent. I did the morning Duas and evening Duas. All rights reserved. May Allah (swt) make us from those who pass our trials (of difficulty and ease)with patience and belief in Him, and always turn to Him whether were going through a tough time or not. Not when it comes to their daughter in-laws. Fine, then build yourself up, step by step. only Allah can judge me. sometimes, i feel extreme impulses to take a knife and cut my private parts because of extreme pain in that area. i indeed need to change. I went through a similar phase and still do at times when things become unbearable and I relapse - but this doesn't last for long now. but this faith has never done me any good. You lost everything. nobody in this world can judge me. My prayer was invalid, but time ran out before I could redo it. the most painful thing is that nobody will even listen to my case and my pain because according to them i am a filthy lowlife and a threat to the society and their family. I started to read and seek more knowledge; my heart opened further. Feeling hopeless and depressed? please pray for me. You know what Brother what can we do? but he is only merciful for ungrateful people that dont pray to him or supplicate to him. Or being deprived of something might, in fact, be saving us from something that is not good for us, even though we don't have the knowledge to realise it at the time. IslamicAnswers.com Staff Photo Gallery. i still remember one day the weather was severely cold and i didnt have a warm cloth and i felt humiliated in class. Why just why? There is always a reason to fight back. i thought that Allah was most merciful. Nothing remains forever, not even hardships. I just do not know why I deserve it. Basically it was the shaytaan really messing with my head. i cant remain stuck in a rut because i will only keep losing more and more if i dont change. You can get through this difficult time and you will Inshallah, but continue to hold on to your faith and don't let this test weaken you. Allah helps those who help themselves. Faith has a high price. Being alone has its perks: it allows you to reflect on what has happened in your life, and how you can preclude from similar situations in the future. For example, Yaqub (AS) wept until he lost his vision and even our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) experienced bouts of sadness upon the loss of his wife and uncle. Every difficulty that we go through is an opportunity for us to remember our place and recognize our dependence on God and our need for Him. Allah has really have a great confidence and trust in you. I read your two posts and sincerely hope that since last year you have found comfort and are on the other side of your very difficult tests. "God does not change the condition of a people unless they change what is in themselves" - Qur'an (13:11) I chose to make a change in my day-to-day life: what I was doing, what I was eating, thinking, reading and so on. Learn to channel your pain into strength rather than suffering and hopelessness. They will be answerable for their behavior on the Day of Judgement, while you will be rewarded for your patience. The feeling kept getting worse. lorelei lee, i can feel your pain. Neighbors are offering up items and home goods to them. That would be impossible. I am extremely sorry for what you have been through and I will pray that Allah Subhanawataalah will grant you relief and happiness in this dunya and the Akhira, InshaAllah. Whoever harms the Muslims or causes hardship to them, Allah will requite him for his deed in this world and the hereafter, or in one of them. Laugh with her, tell her jokes and funny stories, remember your happy times as children. So do not envy them. Take a moment, embrace your lack of control over your circumstances, and know that the one in control is the best of planners and loves you more than you can imagine. Ameen. They happen every day. So rest assured Brother Abdullah you are having one of the most beautiful book that was written by the Most Wise Most Knowing Lord Allah. Dont ever forget that Allah (SWT) will never burden you with something that is beyond your capacity to deal with. Allah says, Then We responded to him, and we rescued him from the dark sadness. No one can deny these things. As in He would tell to Himself this slave of mine is going to be great and I love him so much that is why I will give him tremendous trials and tribulations and I will be very very proud of him! i would hurt myself physically to not feel anything. This shows that sometimes, theres just something thats been written in our fate which may seem bad to us, but we need to keep in mind that Divine wisdom is greater than our limited understanding. No, no; it is a disease and needs to be treated, but not a tangible disease, noit is a spiritual one. And Allah is testing you to the max because he has promised you all that you have so eloquently describedif you only remain patient and persevere. Whoever causes hardship means by opposing someone and showing hostility towards him. But your mind is stuck in a negative thinking cycle, and that is not your fault. I would like to start out by letting you know: Your sister is NOT the ONLY ONE with a WICKED MOTHER-IN LAW, out of the billions of people in the world, there r thousands of millions of mother in laws just like your sister's, some even worst to the extent they will kill the daughter in law. Adam (pbuh) was already destined to go to Earth, before he was even created. I feel more hopeful because I have faith in Allah swt. The questioner says but people are harming others at present, and Allah is not harming them; this may be answered in several ways: There is nothing in the hadith to suggest that the requital for this harm must be in this world; rather the basic principle regarding requital is that it will take place in the hereafter, which is the arena of requital, although Allah may hasten whatever requital He wills to whomever He wills of His slaves. Hastening of punishment in this world, like the punishment of sin for Muslims in the hereafter, is a matter that is subject to the will of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted. It is worth stating that with any other illness there is never shame in seeking professional help. Then when We alleviate the problem for him, he walks around as ifhe wasnt calling on Us in the time of difficulty that touched him. It was also classed as hasan by the commentators on al-Musnad. thank you for your kind words. Every difficulty that we go through is an opportunity for us to remember our place and recognize our dependence on God and our need for Him. i dont even have physical powers and control of my own mind most of the times. he destroyed my whole life. Imaan does, however, equip us with the tools to combat depression and hopelessness. It is only upon an individual to decide what they want. its difficult for me to behave decently because my horrible experiences have made me a filthy indecent human being. Have I lost all my good deeds? It was narrated by Abu Dawood (3635), at-Tirmidhi (1940), Ibn Maajah (2342), Ahmad (15755), at-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer (830), al-Bayhaqi in his Sunan (11386), al-Kharaa'iti in Masaawi' al-Akhlaaq (583) from Abu Sirmah, that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Whoever harms [others], Allah will harm him, and whoever causes hardship . i had the potential to become a superstar. Faith. That is how We beautify, for those who cross limits, the things that they do. (10:12). I felt it too. Whenever you feel yourself being sucked into a dark phase of hopelessness and depression- remind yourself that you have a lot to be grateful for at the same time- whether it is a loving family, supportive friends, food in your belly every night before you sleep, a roof over your head and countless other things. i am one such person. It is in Allahs (SWT) control. this is when my mind was absolutely destroyed. Allah tells us: "Perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good." [ Qur'an 4: 19 ]. been there done that. Allah (SWT) promises His believer that For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease (Quran 94:5). My boyfriends parents dont approveshould we part ways? Allah does not help those who dont help themselves. Faith isn't something is proven by the car you drive, the house you live in, the watch you wear, the cell phone you carry, the powerful friends you have or don't have, faith is not a thing. 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