why does he reach out then disappear

why does he reach out then disappear

Well here goes my story, I was going through a breakup from a guy who was emotionally abusive towards me and decided to go in a dating site for a rebound a guy who wasnt that much my typed messaged me and he seemed different from all the other guys I dated in the past so I gave it a shot, we met at a book store and walked around the park the first time we met it was nice but when he said goodbye he side hugged me and ran off I thought he wasnt interested in me so I let it pass, he texts me the next day to ask to see me before he goes away on a family vacation for the next two weeks I was too busy to see him then so he ended up going on his family vacation and I thought I would never here from him again he contacts me the second he gets back to see me which I was very surprise he still remembered me and wanted to see me we went out in our second date it was nice, on the third date he explained to me he has a very serious case of OCD and anxiety disorder and that was part of the reason why he ran off the day we first met due to an episode he had, I am not the person to judge because my brother had autism and I have a good understanding when it comes to mental disorders. He was investing a lot of time in getting to know me and although, he knew, my life style was a I went crazy and deleted my Instagram so I dont have to see the posts he had tagged me in and all the mushy stuff etc. Ive hooked up with what I thought was a sweet, considerate young man by getting to know him though texting. I am so sorry. He must really have thought I would text him sooner or later, at least at his birthdays since when as class mates we texted each other almost everyday all day long. Thats why my recommendation is to hang out as friends and get addicted to each others company, become genuinely interested in each other, then if the attraction is strong you can talk more openly about pursuing something and be honest about whether either of you are going to keep serial dating. Ive decided to not contact him anymore, let him come to me. Ughhh. We didnt end up meeting for dinner cas he also has a friend in the city and also cas he woke up around 11:30 pm so I suggested we can catch up tomorrow and he said his friends here anyways so that sounds better. His charm was his method of maintain this said option, call it the premium. No!!!! I asked him if he still wanted to do this and he got mad about me asking that, said I was asking stupid questions that he would answer later. We finally decide to meet again a few days ago but he only could late at night and the stupid me (that wanted to see him) accepted what really looked like a booty call. Fast forward to around 6 months later, I felt that the relationship was not moving forward so of course I naturally asked him what are things that would help him get to the next level (not necessarily putting a title on it but at least stepping up our communication). I name a time when Ill be freed up from work. We are both now 12 years older, both had a child, both are single again. But my resentment and hurt is now greater than the sex ever was. Craig talks about when that happens and what could be going on. I kept pulling back but he kept stepping up and making the grand gestures he flew back on the spur of the moment to surprise me. And the minute you decide to give up, he acts interested again. Thats a crap excuse cause Id see him sign on the dating site a lot for hrs. What the hell is so damn important that you have to be joined to your phone? On top of the rest, he has no intention to get married. These are the type who really cant appreciate us so even if we took it further, we would probably still get that ghost end result. Anyway I was in denial and thought maybe something happend and hed contact me the next day apologizing and making plans again to meet.y would he act so interested to just go Mia?! I know I am just a mess when it comes to these things as anyone else but the one thing I have learned is just because a guy is unsure or seems unsure of his own feelings doesnt give him the right to mess with yours. Wouldnt it be so much easier if everyone just honestly said how they felt instead of leaving the other person hanging. We were talking everyday, he met my kids and we finally made it official. However if you want someone that will put you and the relationship first, generally, then look for a guy with those values this guy is not him. Awesome chemistrym. I was very calm about it , which is better because they expect the opposite. Please stay out of my life. We got along really well and had a great day together. Its usually because Im too focused on something else. For me, a closure is crucial. I told him I like him, and he said hes really interested too.then suddenly, nothing. I too am going through the ghosting of a guy i met.. His 32, am 27. After I came back to Europe he kept telling me how he loved me and also about some future plans, kids I also told him I love him and i meant it.. he suggested i should visit him so we will not stay long apart and that he will pay me half of the ticket which was about 1000 dollars as well. "If it's because ghosting you was easier, say goodbye to the disrespectful. He never text me back. But he thinks Im a cool girl and wants to be friends. Then we spent the night together after about a month. We got along great and he asked me out for a second date while still on the first. Its an addiction to. Within a week we saw eachother 3 times th firstweekend I stayed over and it really felt like I knew him forever. He was like we CANNOT have SEXI said fine, I wasnt into someone not into me anyway. He has literally dropped off the face of the earth. I feel like Im a likeable person. Give him his three months and even if its a new girl, hell be back, missing you more if you were really close. After two weeks, I sent him a message asking how he was (I didnt bring up the fact that he hasnt replied to my previous email) still no reply. They have a lot more patience for men than most men deserve; you certainly dont need a man with a severe temper around- theres millions of us without that particular handicap. I text. Date many people but do not sleep with them. things were awesome and we spent two weekend at his place. Things were great, he took me to work and pucked me up Sunday. Next day I texted him e.g. I have been speaking to a younger guy I met online from.a different.city who seemed really nice he as been calling me..most night messaging me everyday told.me.im the girl he as rebooking for ect and we have been planning to meet.up then I started noticing he was speaking to other girls and taking.longer than usual to reply I guess he was doing the fade out thing so I dissent message him today at all I usually message him everyday then I got home from work went to message him on Facebook and he has blocked me wtf.i dont know what Ive done but theres a pattern emerging it has happened a few times before its really starting to annoy me.and im so hurt I speak to his friend who says I should give him space and hold out but I dont know weather I should just walk away I dont want to look pathetic ? When I sent him the picture he said I was so beautiful and ever since then he wont return my texts of my calls. Hard thing is i care about him a great deal, But my emotions with this situation are all over the place. We had a (what I thought) was a really fun night with this friends and roommates, and I decided to spend the night. But dont hold your breath waiting for that. Guys who care about you do not blow you off. At first, he would initiate contact always and sometimes first thing in the morning which seemed quite cute.. I cant believe I let someone control me like that and then ghost on me. people take it personally and think if only i can show him what a great person i am!!! I called him the following week and no answer. Thats my own unique situation ladies and, lets be clear: all guys are not the same and often than not, a man will run to the hill and hide because he realizes that he truly cares about you. I went numb when he said yes. he lets me know as soon as he has landed in another country for work, how the job is going, sends me pictures and updates all the time, but the last couple of days have been different from his side not mine I dont mind if hes changed his mind or he has met somebody else, but I think he should at least have the courage to tell me and not just blank me do you think I should confront it and just ask him why? What the heck does that mean? He had sex with her and had great dates several times, but then she showed her craving to be in a relationship which he didnt want at all. if the attraction isnt very strong or decreases the more you hang out (this happens A LOT) you lose interest. Feminism have destroyed the relations between men and women by allowing men to be equal to women which means they are just pussies. but I havent heard a peep from him in 2 weeks, whereas, we used to communicate 15 times per day. And then now hes the one giving me the cold shoulder?! If it is important to you that he initiates a text to you more often, share this with him, but do this in person, not over texting! Dont give up, Girl..Love is Out There waiting for you!!!! Sunday rolls around I text to say hope he had fun yesterday and I was going to a little kid birthday for my niece. I am starting to think he is getting in his feelings and needs some time to push them back. At first like they all do he was chatting me up and sending all kinds of cute little messages throughout the day. Then Wed I got a Good Morning Bitmoji but then we didnt text during the day. I will admit, it hurt pretty bad and out a huge dent to my ego. Im 30 and neve experienced this. Concentrating on other more important thi gs in life but not shutting .y self off from experiences.. Its rude as hell for him to ignore your texts/phone calls, and he doesnt deserve to have his hard drive back. i just thought it would be great experience to go out of my country and visit him. He read that message around 10 am when he was in class! I opened my eyes to him staring at me at one point. Frankly, I would have been suspicious that he was a scam artist. Let a girl move on in peace! Recently lost my car due to an accident and he was even letting me borrow his and was my main source of transportation. No way! Heartbroken, but silent. He told me he wanted to have sex with me but I didnt know what to answer because I freaked out. I got one half ass text. As with most painful experiences only time will heal. And I will never have this idea that Men who fall for me are mostly wrong men because Im not interested in them, but I will now have the idea that I would like to be with a man who thinks its his great luck to have a girl like me. Once you have other options you wont want to bother with the duds. Avoidance is painful. I knew he had a problem with depression as he had been thru an episode a few months back and came out the other side ok. Im so tired of this ghosting bullshit. I got ghosted today and i texted all night like a dumb-a. (no regrets, I do what I want) But quite honestly, I actually think this is kind of funny. He always wanted me to follow his rules and he could tell me if he didnt like something. I was fine with that, I was in the same boat. I try moving on but some days I just cry and blame myself. I am 46 and he is 58. He had not had a relationship in 2 years and didnt even date anyone but me since then. I like what you wrote there. Every other advanced monkey on this planet is the same way, and dont let them tell you otherwise. I know that if I havent heard from him by now, with the kind of relationship we had, I will never hear from him again. Also another thing id do is id tell myself that isnt that bothered anyway and because of that I justified the behaviour to an extent. No, he never spends time with me. He shared a photo of his ex wife and she actually looked very nice. There's such a thing as intermittent reinforcement. If there is no chemistry, or timing is not right, just tell her. I havent heard from him ever since. Theres this guy, we are best of friends. Sure its a cowardly way to go about it, but I am not as judgy about this than I used to be. I feel for everyone going through this ghosting experience. It was not planned at all as u was in birth control and didnt want any more kids(I have 3 of my own)We will be tied because of this baby so how do you deal with that?? He is cute but not the hottest but I have always been insecure and I dont even care about looks just the chemistry and how much I liked him and how much I cared for him and I felt Just curious what do you think of a situation where two people who met each other at a party friend each other on a social network where she texts like she talks but also engages him about himself/his day and he always sends back just stickers or 1 phrase. Me .. He barely looked me in the eyes while talking, kept looking me up and down inspecting everything. He wants to wait, as always, until things get calmer I dont know that for sure, but thats how he always does, so probably this time as well. He also said he would pay half of the plane ticket since it was so we could see each other. This guy isnt very good at juggling his adult responsibilities- he should have communicated with you a lot better, but hes afraid or uninterested in that so he just fades away. (shes not interested in ME she doesnt care to learn anything about me, shes only interested because i showed up, and because i happen to be a good man). The thoughts still haunt me. After borrowing money of course. Heres whats wrong with the picture. Quit texting. If shes feeling you no matter what youre going through what youve been through she wants to be there. Instead of disappearing. i must say that youve been an amazing help :). But the truth is that I cant trust a guy who can walk in and out over any silly things. My situation relates to yours very closely. Then I do a freak out text saying I guess its over and basically saying it was so disappointing and throw out all my issues I have had with guys and wish he could have just done me a solid to talk to me and not do this fade out act. Please save yourself further heartache and move on. We did fall in love and it was great, we spoke on the phone, emailed, chatted on video, and even met after a year. Maybe something came upsometimes you never know what is going onIs he active on any other social media?If so, then he is a player and should not get any more of your attentionI would send him a message like Im assuming you are dead right now and your spirit is reading all my textsmay lord have mercy on your selfish rotting womanizing soul lolBut in all seriousness, dont text him ever, dont tweet him, instagram him, whatsapp him, or do anything stupid like reaching out to him ever again, until he contacts you again, believe me it works.block him if you have the strength(I wouldnt be able to but maybe you are stronger)And when he texts you (Which usually happens within the first to second month of NC which you are strictly going to follow but dont hold your breath) dont text him back till 24 hours latermake him sufferand be cool when you reply to him like you could not really care less anymore..Anyway by then you wont really care enough to even reply. Ive tried initiating contact a few times, But he disappears mid conversation (which i find rude) And then i wont hear a peep again for weeks on end, So i stopped doing it. I miss him and what we had together but Im trying to give him his space right now. Just wondered what made u see that made u say that I seem like a nice girl ( personally in your opinion) I meant to ask this when we first started texting ? He cared to tell me he was not interested over coffee, and from hia oint of view what i should stop doing. I really was trying not to bother him. We went out for a meal about 3 weeks ago, and decided that we would like to see each other again. No call, no text, no snapchat, nothing. Before then, we were fine i think. To add insult to injury, hes completely re-updated his tinder profile and has been very active so I know hes on his phone. Now that that was out of nowhere. Dont you already have the information you need to get out of this relationship? Few weeks more, we hang out a lot and even had intimate times together. The problem with me is tjah Im not much of clubber or a drinker but I want someone whos not a completely goody two shoes either. Arrff cant I be the exception. He made me feel so alive again. But he did. Im not playing games Now hes totally avoiding me, getting someone else to help me at the counter. I was freaking out so he gave me a small card before going to the washroom that said please relax. He has never gone this long ever before without contacting me. However, some feelings are just too strong to keep inside When a guy is hurt from a breakup, two things can happen: First, it can be easy to tell that he is hurting. It really is a coward move. It will be mind-blowing. He said he is use to women walking away when he gets like this so maybe he is expecting the same from me, I dont know. Reading everyones stories, and particularly the helpful replies, has been comforting in my situation. 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